Summary:
In this episode I talk about why we should embrace boredom. I discuss how today there are so many ways to be distracted that it's more important than ever to not be. I also explain how embracing boredom is like embracing anxiety.
Links:
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Cal Newports Books: http://calnewport.com/books/deep-work/
In this particular episode you will learn:
- Why we constantly get distracted by novel stimuli
“The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity.” Ellen Parr
- There are benefits from boredom in terms of creativity
- Consider that you may be bypassing feelings altogether
- When in your life are you actually 100% present?
- What does it mean to have a crutch person
- Why embracing boredom is like embracing anxiety
To get my Toolkit to Overcome Anxiety go to - http://timjpcollins.com/free
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Summary:
In this episode I speak to Jake Heilbrunn how he dropped out of college at 18 due to anxiety and pressure. The expectations made him feel out of place and led to some physical stress. He then decided to go backpacking in central america.
Links:
Jake's site: http://www.jakeheilbrunn.com/
In this particular episode you will learn:
- How Jake broke out in rashes when he started college
- What made Jake quit college and go backpacking at the age of 18
- Why Jake decided to travel without a cell phone
- How a conversation with a career councillor allowed Jake the permission to go
She asked him 2 questions:
"If you left school to go traveling what's the worst that could happen"
"What's the best thing that could happen if you go"
To get my Toolkit to Overcome Anxiety go to - http://timjpcollins.com/free
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Summary:
In this episode I will answer a listeners question.
This weeks question:
"How do you get in touch with your feelings?"
In this particular episode you will learn:
- How we have almost felt so much that we've worn out our ability to feel
- How we need to embrace all feelings both good and bad in order to start the healing
- How we need to listen to them, understand them, process them, FEEL them
- We are not striving for perfecting, we are striving for living
- Bad feelings can be signposts for work that you still need to do
- Practically the first step is to really engage in the feeling then put the 3 C's into place
Summary:
In this episode I talk about how helping out others can get you out of your own head. I discuss how we can think of how we might be able to help each person we meet, in a selfless way that entirely benefits them and not you.
Links:
The book I was referencing "Ego is the enemy" https://www.amazon.com/Ego-Enemy-Ryan-Holiday/dp/1591847818
To get my Toolkit to Overcome Anxiety go to - http://timjpcollins.com/free
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In this particular episode you will learn:
- Why taking the focus off of ourselves is important
- Why it's key to get out of our own heads when feeling anxious
- Self care and nurturing is still important
- Interaction is key to our healing
- The feel good vibes you get from helping others will help you
- Do things for others without needing to announce it or get validation
- I talk about a few random acts of kindness that you can try out
To get my Toolkit to Overcome Anxiety go to - http://timjpcollins.com/free
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Summary:
In this episode I speak to Charlie Hoehn about his own experience with burnout. From working day and night to having panic attacks and realizing things needed to change. Charlie realized play was an important component to his recovery.
Links:
Charlie's book on anxiety https://www.amazon.com/Play-Away-Workaholics-Cure-Anxiety/dp/0615918174
Charlie's Ted talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uMP8h7fPpoY
Charlie's site: http://charliehoehn.com/
In this particular episode you will learn:
- How Charlie first got stressed out and anxiety while working with Tim Ferriss the author of "The 4 Hour Work Week."
- How Charlie became obsessed with worrying as he thought that was the only thing which was helpful
- How he was prescribed benzodiazepine's but after reading the side effects list decided not to take them
- How he tried everything to undo the anxiety
- Sitting behind a laptop for all hours of the day made Charlie very stressed out
- How Charlie came across the book "Play" by Stuart Brown and that was a lightbulb moment for him
- Why play is such an important part of us being healthy mentally
- How people with a severe deprivation of play are not able to function as well socially
- *Fun Activity* Take out a piece of paper and write down all the activities you did as a kid just for fun, with no particularly agenda
- How improv was a big part of Charlie's recovery (for more on improv see a previous episode with Cameron Algie http://www.timjpcollins.com/podcast/cameronalgie )
- "He who cares less wins"
- Why a good gratitude practise makes such a big difference
- We discuss why mindset is such a big part of the equation
- Charlie talks about what it was like working for Tim Ferriss
- Why you should really commit to having great friends
- “I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it's not the answer.” Jim Carrey
Summary:
In this episode I talk about how our getting out in nature can change our mood. Particularly when it includes cold water, I talk about a recent experience I had.
Links:
To get my Toolkit to Overcome Anxiety go to - http://timjpcollins.com/free
Please click here to leave a review - http://getpodcast.reviews/id/1031117023
In this particular episode you will learn:
- How getting out in nature can change your mood
- Why sometimes you just have to push yourself to go for it
- How nature gets you into the present sense vs thinking about the future all the time
- How cold water totally revatalises you
- How it gets you out of your head
- As interesting example of how there was contrast between those who participated and those that didn't
Summary:
In this episode I talk about how our problems don't go away, they just get solved or upgraded. And in fact shouldn't strive for a problem free life but we should realize that it's part of the process. Happiness comes from working through our problems and improving upon them.
Links:
To get my Toolkit to Overcome Anxiety go to - http://timjpcollins.com/free
Please click here to leave a review - http://getpodcast.reviews/id/1031117023
In this particular episode you will learn:
- Why avoiding problems is what keeps you stuck
- How even when we have huge success we are concerned about losing it all
- Why you should run towards to your problems and not away from them
- Embrace your problems & embrace your anxiety
- Avoiding problems doesn't make them go away
- The growth is in working through problems and looking to improve upon them
- Procrastination often just makes things worse
- How to tackle a problem then enjoy the space
To get my Toolkit to Overcome Anxiety go to - http://timjpcollins.com/free
Please click here to leave a review - http://getpodcast.reviews/id/1031117023
Summary:
In this episode I speak to Dr Tom O'Bryan about autoimmune damage and how it's related to much of the disease we see today. We go into detail about gluten and it's affect on the body including but not limited to anxiety and other mental disorders.
Dr. O'Bryan is a world expert on gluten and it’s impact on your health. He is an internationally recognized and sought after speaker and workshop leader specializing in the complications of Non-Celiac Gluten Sensitivity, Celiac Disease, and the development of Autoimmune Diseases as they occur inside and outside of the intestines. He is the founder of www.theDr.com and the visionary behind ‘The Gluten Summit - A Grain of Truth’, bringing together 29 of the world’s experts on the Gluten connection to diseases, disorders, and a wide-range of symptoms and ages. You can find this info at www.theglutensummit.com.
Dr. O’Bryan is considered the ‘Sherlock Holmes’ for chronic disease and metabolic disorders. He is a clinician par excellence in treating chronic disease and metabolic disorders from a Functional Medicine Perspective. He holds teaching Faculty positions with the Institute for Functional Medicine and the National University of Health Sciences. He has trained thousands of practitioners around the world in advanced understanding of the impact of food related disorders and the development of individual autoimmune diseases.
Links:
Get Tom's book here: https://www.amazon.com/Autoimmune-Fix-Hidden-Damage-Disease/dp/162336700X
Sites mentioned
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/
Eat Fat, Get Thin by Dr Mark Hyman
https://www.amazon.com/Eat-Fat-Get-Thin-Sustained/dp/0316338834
In this particular episode you will learn:
- How everyone has a weak link somewhere and often food intolerances cause these weak links to break
- Anxiety for those susceptible is often the result of gluten
- “No human on the planet can digest gluten”
- How eating gluten reduces blood flow to the brain
- For only 1% of the history of humanity our civilization has been farming
- Start by spending 1 hour a week learning about this new concept. Or making one new recipe a week that your family can try
- The whole body is involved when there is an imbalance, therefore taking point solutions like drugs won't help resolve it alone
- How to put your "condition into remission"
- How changing my diet got me off my inhalers
- When cutting edge research is published the average is 17 years before the doctor in your local practice will know about it
- How the family can learn to do it together
- How many people accept mediocrity in their health
- How people are affected by dairy products
- How gluten free diets have reversed ADD, Autism, Epilepsy, Alzheimers etc
- With celiacs disease you're twice as likely die than someone without it
- "You cannot get a little bit pregnant and you cannot have a little gluten"
To get my Toolkit to Overcome Anxiety go to - http://timjpcollins.com/free
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Summary:
In this episode I will answer a listeners question.
This weeks question:
"How can I prepare for a difficult conversation?"
In this particular episode you will learn:
- How to set the stage for a good conversation
- Why it should be one on one
- Why is should be in a neutral location
- How the timing will never be perfect
- It will always be uncomfortable
- The most meaningful conversations create the most meaningful change
- Why you should move run towards your problems not away from them
- Why you should be open to different outcomes from the conversation
- Try to consider it from the other persons side
- Consider that the conversation you need to have is with yourself
Summary:
In this episode I talk about my recent trip to Ireland and how I hitchhiked for the first time. I talk about some of the insights I had during this experience and explain why it's relevant to you. We also found ourselves in a field with a bull at one point!
Links:
To get my Toolkit to Overcome Anxiety go to - http://timjpcollins.com/free
Please click here to leave a review - http://getpodcast.reviews/id/1031117023
In this particular episode you will learn:
- How I worried about people judging me
- Why I felt anxious and very self conscious
- How the people who actually stopped were both american
Lessons Learnt
1 - We must get uncomfortable to get what we want
2 - People may or may not judge you, only you can decide if it affects you
3 - Exposure to the thing that scares you can diminish it
4 - Treat others kindly as you yourself may one day be in need
5 - Being proud and having too much ego can slow you down in life
To get my Toolkit to Overcome Anxiety go to - http://timjpcollins.com/free
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Summary:
In this episode I speak to Mark Manson about his point of view around anxiety and growth. We talk about relationships, personal growth and generally not giving a f*ck.
Mark Manson is a blogger, author and entrepreneur. He specializes in writing personal development advice that doesn't suck. His website MarkManson.net is read by over 2 million people each month. He lives in New York City.
Links:
To order Marks book go here: https://markmanson.net/books/subtle-art
In this particular episode you will learn:
- How anxiety is an affect and not a cause
- “You will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.” David Foster Wallace
- How when we share we get the opportunity to realize we are not alone
- How having anxiety allowed Mark to realize it couldn't get any worse
- How anxiety can be tied to significance
- Why it's important to options
- How we often can get ahead of ourselves in relationships and life in general
- How neither good emotions or bad emotions last
- What if I've peaked?
- "Problems never go away they get solved and upgraded"
- "Happiness comes from solving and improving upon our problems" (not avoiding them)
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
SUBTLETY #1: NOT GIVING A FUCK DOES NOT MEAN BEING INDIFFERENT; IT MEANS BEING COMFORTABLE WITH BEING DIFFERENT
SUBTLETY #2: TO NOT GIVE A FUCK ABOUT ADVERSITY, YOU MUST FIRST GIVE A FUCK ABOUT SOMETHING MORE IMPORTANT THAN ADVERSITY
SUBTLETY #3: WE ALL HAVE A LIMITED NUMBER OF FUCKS TO GIVE; PAY ATTENTION TO WHERE AND WHO YOU GIVE THEM TO
Summary:
In this episode I will answer a listeners question.
This weeks question:
"Why does making plans make me anxious?"
In this particular episode you will learn:
- How things seems to happen for a reason when you're open to them
- We don't make long term plans as we're just trying to survive
- How making plans also creates expectations
- How to make quick decisions on things you want to do using the Hell Yes or No model (See EP 46) http://www.timjpcollins.com/podcast/hellyesorno
- Be open to things changing
"Live life as if everything is rigged in your favour" Rumi
Summary:
In this episode I talk about my ultimate guide to surviving an interview with anxiety. I go through a number of things you can do both before and during the interview to get the job and succeed.
Links:
To get my Toolkit to Overcome Anxiety go to - http://timjpcollins.com/free
Please click here to leave a review - http://getpodcast.reviews/id/1031117023
In this particular episode you will learn:
- Why we build interviews up so much
- The person who doesn't need the interview ultimately has the most power
- Applying the all or nothing type pressure will just fuel your anxiety
- How when we try to suppress our anxiety it makes it worse
- "I'm actually feeling a bit anxious because I love this company and really want to work here."
- BE ON TIME
- Wear comfortable clothes and do a dress rehearsal
- Don't drink coffee before your meeting
- Why you should have lots of interviews lined up
- Realize there will always be other options
- How to research the company and be prepared
- What to do for in meeting nerves